Is it wrong to kiss your boyfriend? I know that some people wait until they get married to kiss.





Dear Meghan,

Great question . . . and you are not the first to ask it! I've thought a lot about this question from two points of view.

The first point of view is -- is it a sin to kiss your boyfriend? I don't think it is. A kiss is a pleasurable thing and can be quite innocent.

The second point of view is -- is there any good reason to wait until you are married to kiss? I think so! Here are a few:

-1- While a kiss may not be a sin, the kiss has the power to unleash passions that may lead a couple to sinning. It stirs up desires within the couple that they are not ready to act upon. So a kiss can cause a great deal of struggle and confusion in a relationship.

-2- I'd like to challenge you to think of a kiss as something more than "just a kiss". If you walked in and saw me kissing a man who was not my husband, you'd be scandalized -- and rightfully so! You see, deep down, we all know that a kiss is something so much more than "just a kiss"! (Remember, each time you kiss a boyfriend -- you are possibly kissing someone else's future husband. Wouldn't you want your future husband to save up his kisses for you?)

-3- When it comes to physical intimacy (kissing included) -- think of it as a treasure chest filled with jewels and gold. Each time you dip into that treasure chest you are robbing your future husband of his rightful treasure! What a shame it would be to get to your wedding night and find that your treasure chests are depleted, maybe even empty!

My recommendation is this: Store up the treasure of your physical affection before marriage and you'll find that the pleasure and excitement of married love will be far greater than you could ever imagine! This is God's great plan and design -- what an awesome God we have! If you save your best for God, than He'll be free to give you His best!

In His Name,